No. patriarchy is a violent "state of being" by definition. Patriarchy includes duress and force. You are forced to pay taxes, even, if you don't care of getting something back from the state or government. You are forced to send your children to school. Your children are forced to go to school. You are forced to pay for a health insurance, that you maybe do not want. And so on. Just look to your life and check out, what you do not want to do though it would cause no harm.